Dealing with self-confidence
What is it?
As human beings, we are born with basic emotions. However, as babies we do not know how to deal with these physical sensations. As attachment figures interact with us, we learn to recognise the emotions and learn how to deal with them. Uncertainty and fear are healthy and normal emotions, however, when not dealt with effectively, they can start to hinder you in your life.
It doesn't always have to be this way, but at times in your life when this emotion challenges you more because of your life phase, situation, etc...it can rear its head.
Forms of expression:
- Shame
- Fear of failure
- Perfectionism
- Narcissism
- Macho behaviour
- Procrastination
- Physical complaints
- Depressive symptoms
- Avoidance behaviour
It is important to place the manifestations/complaints within a context to place where it belongs. It is not meant to diagnose.
What can you do yourself?
Learn to recognise and accept your anxiety. This sounds simple, of course, but the first steps are in fact becoming aware of your own "coping" with anxiety. In the majority of cases, this only works in a relationship with someone (boyfriend, girlfriend, parent, therapist, psychologist, coach, etc...). That's because your reacting to your own emotions has become an automatism over the years and is therefore difficult to become aware of. It's like I would ask you to go back to conscious cycling, try it.
